China Watch Blog does not claim to be an authority of parenting, but it has successfully gone through the process, including making mistakes which had to be subsequently rectified to obtain the desired results.
First, parenting is not EASY, and to be successful parents, it comes with lots of hard work, sacrifice and, above all, lots and lots of PATIENCE.
If you want to succeed, never start on the premise that you know EVERYTHING, because to become a successful parent, it is a long learning process. Remember that you will make mistakes on the way, and you must be prepared to eat humble pie and restart the process if you have gone off tangent.
Agreed that there are differences between the way westerners and how people living in the east bring up their children, but at the end of the day, whether you are from the west or from the east, you want to bring up children who will grow up to be responsible citizens of the respective countries and to be able to contribute to growth of society and well being of fellow human beings.
Baha’U'llah says: “The earth is but one country and mankind its citizens”.
Most westerners do not believe in strict discipline measures as part of parenting. However, people living in the east, particularly in Asia, believe that they should discipline a child, and yours truly agrees on this concept. Using a system of reward and punishment but with a strong measure of mutual respect, parents can actually discipline a child and, most important of all, ENJOY the experience of parenting as it means the parents have to learn how to discipline a child WITHOUT beating a child.
Discipline a child by depriving the child of what he or she likes most if he or she misbehaves and does not do as he or she is told, is a tactic that has been tried and tested and also it has been found to be effective. For example, children should be ‘controlled’ to do their school homework first before watching TV, and not the other way around.
If the child loves to watch a particular TV programme, then the parent can tape the programme and only allow the child to view the programme after finishing his or her homework. In case the child is naughty, punishment should be in the form of depriving the child of the right to watch the taped TV programme by an hour or two after it has gone on air. This will hurt the child more than beating the child.
Same methods should be adopted for the right to play with for the child’s favourite toys as a means of reward and punishment. Use the freedom to play with the toy as a bargaining tool for getting the child to do some school work or other extra curricular activities like music, dancing etc.
Happy parenting. If you have any questions, don’t hesitate to ask us.
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